Wednesday, October 8, 2014

The Perfect Imperfect world.

Designer Babies. When I was pregnant with my youngest child, this term was being tossed around the baby world, as something that people could now do. Make sure you had the sex of the child you wanted or if they were going to have the eye colour you wanted even before your child was implanted into your womb. And I could remember at the time, as I felt my little one kick within my own womb, what would happen to the world if we didn't have imperfection? If we started having these genetically modified children. Sounds like a Sci/Fi  movie or concept doesn't? Now I really don't know anything when it comes to talking about genes or chromosomes. Just the basics that I remember from 10th grade biology class. But at the time it really got me thinking. What really made me think, was how would societies' view change when there isn't an imperfection within it's norm.

When I think about all the children that grace this planet with their presence, I look at the things that make them different from each other. Skin colour, eye colour, hair colour, short, tall..etc.. If we were all the same, how would we learn about accepting differences?

With in the special needs community we have a hard enough time trying to gain acceptance from the outside as it is. Whether or not our child has a physical, developmental or mental aspect about them, it seems that they are the ones that garner attention from those who do not understand. But what if the imperfections that society puts on them, help the human race figure out what acceptance is?

A lot of us, who are the old war horses in the special needs communities, get sent those stories of that special needs child that made a difference. The one who proved to everyone to not discredit them from society. Those stories of those who change the way someone thought about a certain syndrome or disorder.

They are the ones that will inspire others to be better human beings. The ones that will make people stop and think. Out of all those people who stare or make comments about a special needs child, those parents who fight to educate those who don't know, most times those people will either walk away learning something or they will be left to their own ignorance.

Most people who become a parent, looks at their children as perfect. It doesn't matter. Special Needs parents look at what society deems as imperfect, as perfection as these are our children. They may need a little extra love and time to grow and prosper, but we would never change anything about them to make the perfect in the eyes of what society deems perfect.

Celebrate the imperfections. They are what uniquely make up you. They are what is going to teach the rest of the world that there is no such thing as a perfect person. People may try, but at the end of the day we were all still that imperfect person.